Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am
We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. I’ve done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my method to make an effort to speak to her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july
As well as, just just exactly what would you wanna bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july
I could realise why you’ll believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, not the ex-BF current relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW is only able to control her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being aggravating. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies at all. It can you should be an additional connect to the man when it comes to LW, that is wanting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july
Thats a point that is good sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies with this particular set of dudes whom used to have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then it ended up being realised by me personally ended up beingn’t the girls, its the inventors. And the girls were all people that are just normal, you realize, desired to determine if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, when that occurs enough times- what’s the denominator that is common? YOU WILL BE!!
I do feel detrimental to this GF that is new. She deserves to possess a guy’s full attention. And she deserves a man who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she probably hates the LW because she actually is being told by the man a couple of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am
Personally I think bad on her behalf too, but she has to watch out for by herself. Its difficult being the very first gf after a long relationship, but that is why a lot of people go into these with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am
Yeah that “but I have a girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW knows that he features a GF, he could be simply interested in a response each time he states it. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care I will still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me” if you have a GF,
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior school and me and my boyfriend would split up every single other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight to get straight straight back together”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july
I’ve said here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other method. I understand therefore men that are many utilize that word to full cover up with their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would phone somebody crazy into the place that is first. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and leave it at that. The actual fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you’re happy to phone some body crazy, wouldn’t which means that you will be kinda crazy too?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! As soon as the “crazy” comes down, Im operating one other method. I believe it absolutely was stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is constantly YOU, buddy.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july
The truth is, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he’s in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about any of it too, yet somehow she continues to respond to this dudes calls even though he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman since your simply likely to cause drama. You must just recognize he’s maybe not your boyfriend as well as that you know he has a girlfriend is making you a bad guy in this too though you still like his attention, the fact.
Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july
This is certainly a great point, you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, if you actually do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I enjoy you, eljay) said, somebody needs to function as adult in this example. If he’s maybe not happy to be, you should do it.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your gf. That knows exactly exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their talking so often, but even though the relationship is none of these company, the fact that the LW plus the girlfriend that is new met now i believe permits the LW some leeway. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not fundamentally need certainly to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend happens to be saying _____ in my opinion and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you’re ok with this particular, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went badly, I happened to be beneath the impression you had been fine with your being buddies, but i simply noticed I’m perhaps not fine with your being friends either, so that it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am
I’dn’t communicate with the gf about it. If We had been dating some body for just two months the very last thing I would personally desire is their ex of three years reaching off to me personally. And simply to share with you which you respect her relationship? I would personally think you’re bullshitting me personally and playing mind games. Simply just just Take Wendy’s advice and tell your ex you don’t want to hear them alone from him for a while, and then leave. Really they probably won’t work-out them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, if we had been this new gf and my bf and I also ran into his ex at a club I would personally also need that people leave straight away. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everybody pretends they can be” that is“mature stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay as soon as your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have become OK with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:28 am july